I don't know what to do.
I have a son that I gave up for adoption. He turned 18 in May. I know where he is, I know his parents name and address.
I don't know what to do. I don't know if he knows he's adopted.
I want to let them have my contact information. As an adoptee myself, I know how hard it was to find my birthmother. As a birthmother I want to make it easier for him, while being terrified that he won't want to meet me. I cannot say that I blame him. I've been where he is and my birthmother is a real piece of work.
I have a very close friend that lives 15 minutes from him who will let me use her as a reference. Her daughter knows him through Facebook. It truly is a small world.
So do I:
Contact him directly?
Contact his parents first?
Go through an intermediary?
I have registered with the International Reunion Registry.
What would you do?