Friday, March 27, 2009

It was Not Meant to be

Today was the day hubby and I had been trying to get to for four long years.

Whatever powers that be decide whether or not stuff like this is going to happen decided against us again.

The IVF was not successful.

Hubby got the news first and drove down to tell me in person.

This was our last shot at natural children.

Now the focus shifts to going after a foster placement more aggressively and getting the adoption people to send me the paperwork.

One way or another there will be children in our house some day.

But today is not that day.

Many thanks to everyone for all your kind words and well wishes and prayers and hugs, real and virtual.

19 comments:

NotAMeanGirl said...

I know I've said this elsewhere but I'm so sorry darlin'. I've been there. We tried for 8 years. I wish I was closer so I could give you a huge hug.

Anonymous said...

Oh, Honey, I'm soooo sorry....


{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}


Ba

~Just Jen~ said...

I'm so hoping you will be one of those success stories that somehow, when you stop trying and stop worrying you end up pregnant through some miraculous intervention.

((((HUGS))))

Jennifer said...

I am so sorry to hear this. Keep the faith and I am sure a miracle will find you. We are praying for you and Ken. I wish I was closer so I could wrap my arms around you and give you the biggest hug ever.

Jennifer

Cari said...

I'm so, so sorry.

Devyl Gyrl said...

I cannot imagine. My heart hurts for you both. Thinking of you.

AlisonH said...

Oooh Jen. I'm so sorry. Wishing I could throw my arms around you both in person.

Anonymous said...

First thing I did this morning was check your blog. Now I just want to cry. Can you come to knitting today for lots of real hugs?
Jan

Karin said...

{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry.

Cookie said...

Oh, honey, I am so sorry.

xo

Leslie said...

I'm so sorry, sweetie. I'm sending more hugs for you and your husband.

Anonymous said...

Wishing you and hubby the best during this time :(
-charlie

perpstu said...

Hugs, just hugs.....I'm so sorry....

Emilyrocks31 said...

i love that you have an entire internet community behind you and we all wish that we could drive to wherever you are and just love on you! my fiance's parents fostered kids as well and adopted two of the kids that they fostered so even though they won't be blood yours, i know you won't love them any less! they will be very blessed children! good luck with this new way of going...

On a limb with Claudia said...

One thing I've learned in working with people is that souls find each other. Natural child birth? Adoption? Friend's child? Whatever. It's souls that find each other. And that's about all that matters in the end.

You will be found. And I'm deeply sorry. I know how badly this hurts.

Fear and Parenting in Las Vegas said...

I'm so proud of you for moving forward in a healthy and positive way. As Claudia said, you will find the souls in your life that will bring you joy.

Toni said...

I'm sorry for this loss in your lives, but can't wait to hear the next chapter. I'll keep praying for the special kid(s) who need the two of you (plus the animals) as parents.

John III said...

Hi there, it's Davion from Travian. Sorry to hear about the results. But you will have kids someday soon I know. Adoption is a wonderful thing!

Barb said...

Oh, I am so sorry. I've been praying so hard. I'm sorry I haven't been blog-reading lately so I just read this news. My heart is broken for you.